The Resistant Client in Therapy

I have always taken issue when I hear therapists talk about "the resistant client." I believe statements such as, "they're not ready," "they just don't get it," are more of a reflection of the therapist rather than client. Ironically though those same therapists do not have any problems continuing to bill and received payment from those clients. I equate that to when they identify children with learning disabilities — as Richard Bandler once said, "There are no such things as learning disabilities, only teaching disabilities."

Where is the burden of responsibility?

I strongly believe it is not a question of clients "not getting it," but rather it is a matter of "presenting it to them" in a way that they can process and apply the therapy. But what about guarantees – I am often asked if I offer any guarantees on my programs – often my reply is: "How do you guarantee human behavior?"

Nothing is 100% effective, however; as Abraham Maslow said, "If you only have a hammer, you tend to see every problem as a nail."

I find hypnosis to be a extremely effective modality particularly when combined with short-term solution focused therapy. I cringe when I hear people say my therapist is phenomenal, I have been seeing him/her for years. The fact is that most therapy is about as effective as the passage of time – this has been proven particularly with regard to traditional talk therapy. With hypnosis a trained therapist can successfully bypass the conscious mind, or what we call the critical faculty, and establish a direct connection the subconscious whereby eliminating inner conflicts spontaneously, immediately and permanently and in many cases in just one session.

But once again there is no way of absolutely guaranteeing results, but I can guarantee the effort that goes into each session. I also inform clients that they are welcome back for a free follow-up or reinforcement if necessary or desired -once I take on the client, I will work with them until the desired results are realized. In summary, one size does not fit all. If I determine that the modalities that I incorporate are not effective for particular client for whatever reason I am always prepared to make the appropriate referral if necessary.

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